One Go Round…

August 11, 2019 2 Minutes

We took a quick trip this weekend to Connecticut to pick up some things that were my husband’s Dad and Step Mother’s. Unfortunately Dad has passed, but it’s always so nice to reconnect with family. We get caught up in the minutia of the day-to-day and can forget to stop and just breathe! We often say, “we’ll catch up soon, or we’ll keep in touch” and before we know it so much time has gone by and we’ve done neither. The trip was quick but conversation while there was and always is full of looking ahead but never forgetting the goodness of the past.

People who know me often hear me say, “don’t take your family, parents or loved ones overall for granted, we only get one go round (at least with these spirits) once in this lifetime.” Unfortunately, as we all do, we get caught up in a ‘now’ moment whether good or bad and let that determine our behavior toward our family members and often we lose out on precious time and memories – or we think they’ll always be there and available and then one day they just aren’t! This causes regret and more sadness oftentimes. I know it has with me, especially with my own parents, siblings and others that have come in and out of my life.

Having a relationship with someone is a choice, not an obligation even when they are are ‘family’! There are no rules that govern how we should go about reconnecting, establishing or keeping relationships; but renewal is (in my opinion) the universe’s way of giving us or reinvigorating a relationship that we need at that particular time in our life!

For me personally, I only wish for people to be in my life that want to be in my life and it dawned on me that part of my lesson to learn (even when it hurts like hell) is that not everyone we imagine will remain in our life the way we thought they would, even those that have been by our side our whole lives. We evolve and in that evolution we sometimes have to let go, the hard part is being ok with it!

So the morale to my little story is to enjoy relationships that bring you joy and cherish them because one day they may just flutter gently away and you will be lost, so live, love and laugh as much as possible so you can look back and still cherish the time you had. At the same time, allow yourself to enjoy reconnecting with others or even new relationships because as we all know tomorrow is never promised.

With much love always…