We all think about the past, how it affected us, the good the bad the ugly and sometimes we get ‘stuck’ on things that affect how we live in the present and even the future. Those things can be anything from lamenting about how great we use to look and feel, and feeling like it’s too late to change or having endured hardship, abuse or trauma – trust me it comes in all forms.
Our brains don’t know the difference between what’s real and what’s not when our emotions are involved, it just knows that your body’s ecosystem is reacting to happiness, stress, anxiety or fear and this can make it hard to move on from those things that continually creep into our thoughts and drive our actions e.g., we feel bad about ourselves so we reach for ice cream instead of a stick of gum or we sabotage opportunities and then torment ourselves with self-loathing.
What we need to do is help our brain build new path ways to how we want to feel in the future, and have the confidence that if it manifests it was meant to be, but what does that look like? For me, I imagine what I want to be or not to be or to change etc., and actually visualize it. When I say visualize, picture yourself in the midst of what you want, e.g., a new home, better job, money to pay college tuition for your kids, someone to help you take a load off – imagine that you already have it, what does it look like e.g., a new job, picture walking into a new building, a new office, meeting new people and doing the job you really want. If you do this daily, trust me it will manifest.
The world is made up of negative and positive energy, there is no middle ground. If we imagine all the positive energy we have moving in the direction of where we want to be, or what we want to accomplish it will take us there. It’s a process, but if you stick with it, it will happen. I have so many examples in my life that this has been a reality for me.
I know it all sounds a little coocoo crazy, but it works. Throughout my lifetime when I’ve wanted to manifest an idea, or a change or get a new job, or was in a situation I wanted out of etc., I visually looked for it in my future, visualized it daily and eventually it happened. I didn’t question how it would happen, I just knew if I put all my positive energy toward change it could happen. However, sometimes we are scared to change, so even visualization doesn’t help in those cases because we intermix the “what we want” with “what ifs” and though we want change, we can’t manifest it because we’re afraid of what it might mean or most of the time it just has to do with the fact we either don’t trust ourselves enough to know we deserve it or we are afraid of the unknown of what that means if we actually succeed.
I’ve always love writing, I’ve always wanted to impact people’s lives through words but on a global level, however, I don’t work very hard to manifest it because I fear what if I get there and then …… I let someone down or I really suck at it. That’s the ‘what ifs’ I was talking about earlier e.g., What if people don’t like what I have to say, what if I can’t deliver, what if I end up hating it, What if I can’t touch or reach people like I want to … well you get what I’m saying. I’ve been the only one standing in my own way and who knows I may continue to do so, but writing this blog, has been my baby steps to sharing my thoughts and writing.
My really deepest secret desire is to be a song writer and years ago I wrote my husband a song and sang it to him at our wedding. It was so much fun collaborating on the music and I had such a good time doing it. From the time I was a kid, I’ve always wanted to be a song writer or some sort of writer, but I never have believed I could make it happen due to that dang fear and doubt that overrides the positive energy toward it. Even when I had opportunities that I could have tried to pursue, I sabotaged them due to my own self doubts.
Bottom-line, self doubt is the only thing that stops us from achieving pretty much anything. It’s like the people that run toward danger without a thought for themselves. They just don’t doubt that they can do it or at least they don’t let it stop them.
Don’t look to the past for change, always be present in the now, but embrace and visualize the positive things you want for your tomorrows and if you give it time, spend quality time really visualizing it and keep at it like a habit, you will be amazed! I have been so many times.
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