Author Archives: Nancy

We often make decisions because it’s going to make someone else happy e.g., your parents, your boss, your hairdresser, your doctor and on and on. Don’t get me wrong, it’s goodness to make decisions with input from others, but often it’s at the cost of our own joy and that’s where you must learn to draw a line in the sand and not acquiesce. It can be something as simple as what paint color to use or to the very extreme of not pursuing your dreams or perhaps important decisions that will affect your future or even just memories that you want to make.

Today I was driving back home in the pouring rain and passed a field of horses that were standing stock still. I was listening to the song by Alabama called ‘Angels Among Us.’ It’s one of my favorite songs of theirs. I stopped to take their picture and a beautiful black horse turned her head and just stared at me, like she knew exactly what I was thinking. It was a beautiful quite moment and made me want to remind people that Angels come in all forms.

I grew up Catholic, my parents were catholic, my grandparents were catholic, you get the picture. A long line of organized religion, nothing wrong with that, but it wasn’t the religion that made me believe, it was the ‘faith’ that my Mother had. She believed there was a God (something kinder and greater than us) and that prayer was the most powerful thing on earth, and you know what, I believed her, and in her and believe that today.

Throughout my lifetime, most of which has been in a married state, I’ve always known that things would be OK no matter the circumstances. I don’t know why I knew or know this; except I call it having faith. Faith to me is the absence of fear and believing that something greater is at work in the universe working on my behalf if I just believe, so I do, and things always work out. Like the time, we owed annual taxes to the tune of 3k and due to other expenses, we literally did not have the money, but then out of nowhere, before tax deadline, boom it manifested in the form of a gift. Or when our dog, Hunter was diagnosed with cancer and he was only 3. Like a child, you don’t just discard them because they are sick.

My Mom always reminded her eight children that ‘hate’ was a strong word and should never be used lightly. She was referring to when someone says it about another human being and not when you say, “I hate cooked carrots” (which I do by the way). Mom worked as a teacher’s assistant for over 20 years and she worked with special needs children. She saw how they were pigeon holed and judged because they couldn’t read as fast or didn’t look or dress the same as the other kids. My Mother’s mission was to make these children understand that they weren’t worth any less than the smartest or most popular kid in the school and they had just as much opportunity as the next kid, but they’d have to work a little harder for it.

Independence day – the day ‘the thirteen colonies’ declared their independence from the British Monarchy – well technically it was July 2, but not officially approved by Congress until July 4th (just sayin…). What were we declaring our independence from? Just a few little things called, tyranny, oppression and taxes. Colonists believed that with independence would come the ability to make a better life to include owning their own land and the ability to make more money – it was the beginning of the American Dream!

Losing anyone in our life is hard to include animals. They especially have short lives and though we wish they could stay with us longer, it’s just not what God intended. Though if you believe that we choose how we’ll come to and leave this earth via free will, then you also believe that we reincarnate our souls through several lifetimes. Now I know that some people will STOP reading right here and say, “ok Nancy you’ve completely lost your mind…” but the reality is, I haven’t. I just choose to believe that God’s plan for us was more than one lifetime in order to learn and grow spiritually – after all, God rose again, so why not us? Just think about it and perhaps the story I share below will convince you.

hile in line to checkout about 30 mins later I hear a gentleman that works there say to his coworker, “I need to go home on my lunch break and help my wife, but man I can’t go in this weather.” As his colleague is checking me out I can see the panic on this face. so I say, “Where do you live, I could give you a ride.” I know, I know … I DON’T know this guy from Adam,

We took a quick trip this weekend to Connecticut to pick up some things that were my husband’s Dad and Step Mother’s. Unfortunately Dad has passed, but it’s always so nice to reconnect with family. We get caught up in the minutia of the day-to-day and can forget to stop and just breathe! We often say, “we’ll catch up soon, or we’ll keep in touch” and before we know it so much time has gone by and we’ve done neither. The trip was quick but conversation while there was and always is full of looking ahead but never forgetting the goodness of the past.

On September 7th, I will have been married 34 years and that is just mind blowing. It never feels like as much time has gone by that has and every year I say that to my husband. We met in Texas on an Air Force Base. He was active duty and had just come back from Germany, it was April of 1985. I was staying with my sister. I met him quite by accident – he and several other Air Force active duty. He teases me that I went on dates with his friends before I went on a date with him, but the truth was, he was shy and hadn’t asked (I only went on two dates and I didn’t have much fun). I wasn’t quite sure about him, but fate is amazing and when she steps in, well if you listen you make the right decisions.